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​"If you don’t know how to say no,

your body will say it for you

through physical illness."​

Dr Gabor Maté

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Yes, life can be stressful.

How often do you ignore your body’s signals because life just won’t stop?

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Your body hardly ever lies and often quietly nudges you - maybe with headaches or a tight jaw, back pain, anxiety, the feeling of constant exhaustion?

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Good news is that you can unlock your body's wisdom to heal so many symptoms while gaining resilience, becoming more relaxed and also preventing burnout.​

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Sounds intriguing and promising? 

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I invite you to get in touch so we can discuss how TREmendously

amazing your body is and how you can proactively support your

health and well-being, while saving time and money. 

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So many good things start with a conversation, grab a cup of

something nice and meet me on Zoom. 

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As promised, I also have a wee self-care exercise for you

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I came across this exploration in one of Gabor Mate's lectures and would like to share it with you, because it can be a real eye-opener; especially if you are someone who is saying yes when deep down your whole being is whispering no.

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Or maybe you’re craving to say yes to yourself:

​​To rest and deep relaxation, better boundaries, more joy in your life etc., but you are being pulled in other directions, just not your own.

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Are you ready to give it a go?   

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Find a quiet space, make yourself comfortable, get yourself a nice cup of something warming or refreshing, maybe you want to light a candle … whatever signals relaxation and me-time to you.

 

The big recommendation is to NOT judge yourself in any way, but be kind and compassionate and simply observe the situations that come up.
 

Ask yourself:
 

In the previous seven days:
 

• Where didn't I say no, although I wanted to say no?
  (maybe a friend asked to have coffee with you, but you were tired, a co-worker asked you a favour, although you were already working overtime, your partner wanted sex, but you weren't in the mood ...)
   

• What was the impact?
  (maybe you became tired, irritated, resentful, moody, your back started playing up, your muscles tensed up, your tummy grumbled, the headache started …)
   

• What was the belief behind my inability to say no?
  (Again, be really honest with yourself, you don't need to share this with anybody. And you might come up with old beliefs like: I'm not caring enough, I'm a bad person, I feel guilty, I'm selfish …)
   

• Where and when did I learn this belief?
  (probably in childhood, do you also remember the situation? Do you hear the voice that instilled that belief in you?)
   

• Who would I be without this belief?
  (Imagine your world without this belief, even if it's challenging. Trust your answer, it'll come ...)
   

• Where am I not saying yes? A yes, that wants to be said but isn't said.
  (That might be a yes to yourself, your interests and your needs, e.g. you are passionate about something and want to do that or go there, but you are prioritising somebody or something else, putting somebody's needs first, are too busy, too tired, too stressed, too …)
  
  
  Powerful, right? 
  
  Gabor suggests that with these questions, you'll start recognising your inauthenticity and move automatically towards authenticity.
  
  If you constantly suppress yourself and your needs, you risk losing touch with yourself and might sacrifice your own health and well-being in the long run.

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Let me know what you think and remember to be kind to yourself.

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Also remember that TRE is a beautiful self-care and stress release practice which can help you to become more resilient. 

 

I'd love to share with you how TREmendously amazing your body is, how TRE can support you on this journey and invite you to start the conversation. 

 

Sylvia